Your partner is not incapacitated by drugs or alcohol. You think back to earlier in the night and are certain you didn’t guilt, pressure, coerce, blackmail, manipulate, or threaten them into having sex with you. Your partner looks deep into your eyes with care and affection. Your partner makes erotic moaning noises such as "Ooh," "Aah," or "Huzzah." When you touch your partner, they lean into and reciprocate your touch, sometimes even initiating contact themselves, almost as though they are actively engaged in the situation and not just going along with it because you made them feel obligated and/or frightened. When you kiss your partner, they kiss you back.† You asked your partner, "May I bang you?" and they said, "YAAAAAASSSSS!!!" Your partner just said, "I want to bang you!" Not just because you might get in trouble for sexual assault, but because-presumably-you respect and care about your partner. You just ask yourself: Did this person say, with their body language or their words, that they want to have sex with me? If they did, go for it! And if you have any doubt whatsoever, DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH THAT PERSON. And to those men I say: You guys! You are reading this all wrong!
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To my great surprise, though, instead of busting out the tinsel and tucking into the consensual sex celebration goose, a lot of men seem anxious about this new bill-apparently worried that they’ll soon have to, say, obtain a notarized contract every time they want to honk their wife’s boob or else be carted off to some feminist gulag. Your present is not inadvertently raping someone! Just what you told Santa you wanted! On a personal level, it might not sound super sexy, but trust me-this is BASICALLY SEX CHRISTMAS.
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It’s a subtle reframing that could have a major impact on how we think about sexual assault long-term, and I, for one, have been self-high-fiving myself raw all day. Great news, sex-havers! The state of California passed a groundbreaking bill this week that redefines the standard of sexual consent from "no means no" to "yes means yes." The bill shifts the burden of proof, in internal campus investigations only, away from traumatized victims (asking, "Did you say no? Did you do enough to prevent your rape?") and on to alleged perpetrators (asking, "Did she say yes? Did you do enough to confirm that she wanted it?").